Bitching, Moaning and Limiting Your Brain?
Pessimists are eight times more likely to be depressed than optimists, perform worse at school and work and have rockier interpersonal relationships. Research reported in Psychology Today.
Sitting alone in a café with a warm bowl of soup one day, nursing jet lag, (having just come back from working with Courageous Success, Australia), I had an hour to fuel my body ready for the afternoon’s meetings.
Despite feeling tired, my mind-set, as ever, was free and positive. How wonderful it was to sit with my laptop in a warm restaurant environment in the middle of the day.
However, sitting next to me (yes I’ve been ear-wigging again!), were two colleagues, who, for the full hour moaned, bitched and complained – fuelling negativity about themselves and their employer. To my right there was also a table of four people all dramatising over relationships, work and life.
What was even more shocking, the two martyrs on my left, work in Learning and Development – I saw their company lanyards!!! I would love to naughtily name them, but never would!! During their hour long rant they slagged off clients, bosses and attendees to their courses.
Are you in this place?
Are your development providers slagging your teams off?
Being happy improves your ability to be more alert and productive. According to research reported in Psychology Today: ”other than being much more fun to be around, being happy stimulates the growth of nerve connections, improves cognition by increasing mental productivity, improves your ability to analyse and think, affects your view of your surroundings, increases attentiveness, and leads to more happy thoughts.”
‘Optimism and positive thinking, in general, support brain growth.
Negative thinking slows down brain coordination, making it difficult to process thoughts and find solutions.”
The good news is that brains are flexible, we can change habits of thinking – we can train our brain by re-wiring it. Scientists have shown that our thoughts make a physical difference to our brain cells. We are all able to ignore and avoid negative thoughts that lead to pessimism, and increase our positive thoughts that lead to optimism.
Here are our Top Tips on maintaining a positive mind-set:
- Keep your power – manage your emotional response to events that upset or annoy you – choose to maintain your equilibrium and a positive mood.
- If others are being negative – change the subject or walk away.
- Fill your consciousness with positive influence – be aware of your thoughts and your response to what’s happening around you.
- Have hope and faith.
- Get excited – don’t wait for others to excite you.
- Make a difference to others – whilst not needing or expecting anything in return.
- Be nice – don’t gossip or bitch.
See the good in others. Fuel the good in yourself.