Making Yourself Stressed and Burnt Out?
When we ask clients to score their agreement with the question “I have a strong relationship with myself” (as part of our Courageous Counter) the vast majority score a low 3.5 out of 10.
The Courageous Counter comprises of ten questions that evaluate an individual’s propensity for having Courageous Success. This single question stands out for vast majority of us as something we need to work on. We have a whole kingdom of resources within and yet many of us don’t use it, want to accept it, like it, look after it or want to spend time with it….with ourselves.
Gallup estimate that 31% of us are stressed and 24% of us are suffering from tiredness or burnout, how many of us are looking within ourselves for the answers? We can tell you: our research shows that over 90% of us don’t.
So, how is your relationship with yourself?
I asked Nikki, our Head of Development, what well-being is. In her experience of working with thousands of us around the globe her conviction was clear – well-being is “a fully grounded sense of self”.
Clients work with us on many objectives, from leadership and profit generation, to maximising authenticity and courage. Many objectives are similar, some of the most common are:
- Generally have less anxiety and panic, absorb the stress of others less.
- Be less of a pleaser – I say yes to everything.
- Manage my reactions better and over-analyse less.
- Put less pressure on myself – most of it is self-imposed and I forget this!
- Less frustration, directness and aggression – pause my ambition and focus on now.
- Feel more confident about my strengths – accept myself.
If you’ve worked with us, you know the answer. You also know it’s simple and I hope that you are continuing to be consciously aware. Let me know. I love it when you share your stories!
For those of you yet to engage with Courageous Success, the fix that we all want to these questions, lies within. Here are three steps to move you forwards;
- Choose to fix it yourself, regardless of circumstances.
- Decide to remove your self-consciousness whilst being your real self.
- Connect with yourself and have a positive conversation. Look within for your thoughts and strength.
A study from the Dept. of Economics at Warwick University found that happy workers are 12% more productive than the average worker, and unhappy workers are 10% less productive, therefore the strength of your relationship with yourself will not only make you happy, if you decide to generate happiness yourself, your productivity will fly.
What are you waiting for?