84% of people blame bad managers for creating unnecessary stress.
(Business Wire)

We know from our studies that only 25% of people say that their manager is being the best of themselves at work. What is getting in your way of being your best at work?
In my experience two things. 1. Many of us don’t take enough responsibility for our own happiness and positivity at work and 2. As managers of people we often act as we think we should and not consciously managing ourselves so that we are real and bringing out the best in those around us.

The same study reports that 84 percent say poorly trained people managers create a lot of unnecessary work and stress. But is it about training? The majority of management training I’m still told about is “back to basics” (I really hate that phrase!) Models, frameworks, role plays. Urgh. I do wonder if many of us would be better at this if we hadn’t had this kind of old fashioned “training”!

57 percent then said that managers in their workplace could benefit from training on how to be a better people manager, but only half felt that their own performance would improve if their direct supervisor received additional training in people management. Interesting!
The top five skills people managers could improve were: Communicating effectively (41 percent), developing and training the team (38 percent), managing time and delegating (37 percent), cultivating a positive and inclusive team culture (35 percent), and managing team performance (35 percent).

There is a different path! Be yourself, the best of you. And it’s a much more enjoyable one!It is almost like we feel like we need to become slightly moulded when we lead other people. We worry about getting things wrong and so use control as our strategy. Yet we cannot control everything. This feeling of control, the need to have it must be compensating for something…our fear of not being good enough. It is an exhausting approach too breeding a prove it strategy, politics and hierarchy in the atmosphere.
Some stats to reflect upon;
Nearly 50% of people have left jobs due to a bad boss – have you?
34% would actively avoid their manager if they saw them in public (TotalJobs)
58% of people say they trust strangers more than their boss (HBR)
75% say their “boss is the most stressful part of their workday (American Psychological Association)
Managers account for up to 70% of variance in engagement (Gallup) 4 out of 5 dollars spent on management training are wasted (ATD)
Discovering who you are at your best, not your skills or experience, the real you is the first step to inspiring naturally. Whether you manage people or not. For as long as we look outside of ourselves for validation and self-confidence, whilst we control seek autonomy and need to be valued and validated, we will lack inner resilience and the freedom on the inside of us to be ourselves, let go and really enjoy our work.

Be you.